The 5 Month Mark.

Yesterday was exactly 5 months until the wedding. The day came and went without much celebration other than Jus & I working on some reception decorations (a project I'll share later in the week).

The five month mark felt like crunch time this week. The list of things we need to do is not much shorter than it was a month ago and that fact scares me. This past week I was overwhelmed and had Bridal Brain to the extreme. (True story: I literally forgot to shower on Thursday)

But this week is different. I'm jumping into wedding planning with both feet. We have an appointment to try cake and another to see tuxes. We also got started on some DIY projects and have supplies for others. I feel positive about where we're headed and am excited to marry my love in 5 months.

How do you handle the stress of wedding planning?

Bridal Brain

Please forgive me for being a bad blogger this week, but I have a doctor's note.*

I'm suffering from Bridal Brain.

The symptoms include a nervous ball in the pit of your stomach, the inability to multitask, and a one track mind that can't get anything but worrying done.

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I hope this sounds familiar, I hope I'm not the only one slowly going in sane. It's just that I have so much to do and can't help but freak out a little bit. Luckily, we checked off some big things and got some supplies for other things yesterday so next week I'll get my head together and share some of our projects & plans.

Have you ever suffered from Bridal Brain?

*Of course I don't have a doctor's note, my doctor would think I was crazy too.

I Have a Confession to Make

Sometimes I'm a total jerk to my mom.

My mom and I have a wonderful relationship. We spend at least seven hours a day together during the week and often choose to see each other on the weekends too. Not only do we look alike but our temperaments are almost identical. My mom is truly my best friend.

But wedding planning sometimes brings out my bad side.

My mom is a planner, as soon as she knows the date of an event she is ready to have all of the details flushed out. I am a dreamer and procrastinator, I like to come up with huge ideas and spend time thinking them through.

Throughout our planning there have been many times when I rush to my mother with a crazy idea and every time she has supported me. Unfortunately I can't say the same for myself.

There have been many times when I've told my mom "Oh, that's a cool idea" and she's started asking the questions to make these ideas realities. As soon as she starts asking questions I begin to get defensive. After getting defensive I start to get snappy.

The other day my mom asked about table numbers and after I showed her an idea I had she started flipping through a catalog showing me idea and asking questions. I immediately jumped all over her insisting that I just didn't know what I want.

Obviously this is not something I am proud of. My mom has been nothing but helpful and I've been a big ol' brat. I know part of our disagreements are because of our natures, she wants to get things done while I need to think about them first.

After the first couple of these spats my mom decided to step back and try to give less opinions and more support and I promised to do the same, but I've failed.

So this is my pledge to you, to my mom, and to myself. I promise to be more conscious of what comes out of my mouth. Our wedding is a day to celebrate love, not just the love between Jus & me but all of the love in our lives, and not just one day's love but love that started before and lasts after the wedding.

I am embarrassed that I am at this point, I promise I'm not always mean, I promise I hug my mother far more than I snap at her, I promise she doesn't want to give me up for adoption (trust me, I've asked). But I also promise to work on this, because I love my mom and I want her to enjoy the planning process as much as I do. Our relationship is far more important than wedding planning.

Have you had to check your attitude during the planning process?

Hi, My Name is Cole

And I'm a nervous wreck!

I got the phone call today. You know, the one that says your dress is in? And for some reason I'm incredibly nervous to call back.

I know I loved my dress and cried when I put it on, but that was in January.

Now it's May and what if I don't like it?

What if it's not fabric-y enough?

What if it's too beaded?

What if it doesn't fit?

I would pay someone to let me know how my first dress fitting will go. Or at least to call the dress store back and make an appointment for me to try it on.

Did you have a freak out moment when your dress came in?

Bridal Stress

Stress headache, nervous nausea feeling, & knots in the stomach are not feelings you generally associate with a happy, glowing bride to be, but that's how I've been feeling today.

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With less that six months to go until our wedding I have realized that I have a lot of stuff to do.

This morning I was stressed out, we don't have a caterer, I haven't even started looking for a florist, we haven't tasted cakes, there are no wedding bands picked out and the way it stands Jus will be naked at the wedding. And we're not even going to mention invitations.

I spent the morning with a sick stomach but then I took a deep breath, made a list and got to work I know I can't sit around and wait anymore. Once upon a time the wedding was in the distant future but now it's only a couple of months away. So I made a list and got to work (I also went to yoga to de-stress a bit).

Was there a point where you realized you had to get on the planning?